Does Your Child Injure Themselves? Here’s How to Help.
March 12, 2024
As children grow into their pre-teen and teenage years, they can become overwhelmed with stress and strong emotions. This includes feelings of anger, anxiety, hopelessness, loneliness, sadness, and more.
Some pre-teens and teenagers react to these strong emotions by injuring themselves.
Self-injury can mean:
- Scratching or cutting their skin with sharp objects.
- Hitting themselves with their fists or hard objects.
- Pulling out their hair.
- Burning themselves.
What are the warning signs of self-injury?
Many parents are shocked when they learn that their child has been harming themselves—especially if it has been happening for long periods of time. That’s because pre-teens and teens usually try to hide these behaviors from adults.
According to the Adolescent Self-Injury Foundation, parents can watch for some common warning signs of self-injury.
These include:
- Wearing long-sleeved shirts and long pants even in hot weather.
- Refusing to wear clothing that exposes arms or legs, such as bathing suits.
- Wearing gloves, arm bands, or other accessories that cover the entire hand, wrist, and forearm.
- Hiding sharp objects—such as knives, razors, pieces of broken glass, safety pins, tacks, or needles—in their bedroom, backpack, clothing, or shoes.
- Having an abnormal amount of bruises, scratches, cuts, burns, or broken bones.
- Often wearing bandages.
How can adults support a self-injuring pre-teen or teen?
Once a young person begins to self-harm, it can be very difficult to stop. They need support, but may not know how to ask for it.
Adults can help by:
- Understanding that self-injuring is a very serious and risky behavioral pattern.
- Remembering that young people cannot just “snap out of it.”
- Asking them what help they need—and do not need.
- Taking the child for emergency medical care if necessary.
- Researching self-injury to better understand how and why it begins.
- Being calm and nonjudgmental.
- Encouraging the pre-teen or teenager to talk with a counselor or doctor.
- Helping them to find a self-help group, so they don’t feel so alone.
- Reassuring the pre-teen or teen about their strengths and hope for the future.
Most of all, adults should be patient with the young person’s recovery. It can take a long time to stop self-injuring—but recovery is possible.
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